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  • Why The Prophet?

    11 Conversations on parenting, love and letting go

    Inspired by The Prophet by Kahlil Jibran

    A personal Journey

    From a carefree, naive wanderer

    To a lifelong seeker of questions.

    Not because life became easier, but one small book quietly changed the way I looked at the world.

    Walk with us..

    The first conversation begins this friday…

    Welcome to The Prophet Dialogues

  • Beyond the Breaking News-Part 7

    Violence, Fear, Perception and Agency

    Deepali Bhattacharya

    In conversation with TD, Clinical Psychologist  ·  An eleven-part reflection, with notes and references

    PART VII

    Why Old Wounds Never Really Leave

    “Communities remember far longer than newspapers do.”

    There are moments in history that become reference points.

    Ask people where they were during a major earthquake, a terrorist attack or a national tragedy, and many can answer almost instantly.

    Not because they were present.

    But because the event became part of their collective memory. 16

    After the recent train murder, I heard several people say the same thing.

    “It reminded me of 26/11.”

    The comparison was not about numbers.

    It was about emotion.

    When I asked TD why old tragedies return so easily, he explained the idea of collective trauma. 15

    Unlike personal trauma, collective trauma belongs to an entire community. It becomes part of the stories people tell, the fears they inherit and the way future events are interpreted.

    A new incident does not arrive alone.

    It awakens older memories.

    This is true not only for acts of terrorism.

    Communities affected by riots, displacement, recurring floods or long histories of violence often carry invisible emotional maps. A loud sound, a familiar location or even a news headline can reopen emotions that had never completely healed.

    Perhaps this is why healing requires more than time.

    Time passes.

    Memory remains.

    The challenge before society is not to erase painful memories. That is neither possible nor desirable.

    The challenge is to prevent painful memories from becoming permanent prisons.

    Collective memory can become a source of wisdom.

    Or it can become a source of perpetual fear.

    The difference lies in how societies remember.

    Do we remember only the horror?

    Or do we also remember the courage of ordinary people who helped one another?

    History offers both.

    What we choose to pass on matters.

    A QUESTION THAT STAYED WITH ME…

    When does healthy caution quietly become a life governed by fear?

    Notes:

    15.  Erikson (1976), studying the Buffalo Creek flood, first described trauma that damages the tissue of community itself; Hirschberger (2018) reviews how collective trauma becomes part of a group’s identity and meaning-making across generations.

  • Trust Fund Kids

    Trust Fund Kids

    |Understanding Our Times | Series-1

    Beyond “Trust Fund Kids”: Youth Addiction, Trauma, Aspiration and Social Inequality in Urban India

    By Tathagat Dwij

    Edited by Deepali Bhattacharya

    Abstract


    Public conversations on youth addiction often move between two simplified images: the wealthy “trust fund kid” who turns to substances because life offers too much comfort, and the poor adolescent whose substance use is explained through deprivation, neglect or crime. Both images are incomplete. Drawing on practice-based reflections from work with adolescents across elite schools, community settings, vulnerable children and youth in conflict with law, this article argues that youth addiction must be understood through the interaction of trauma, aspiration, belonging, class location, family systems, mental health and access to substances.
    The article uses the “trust fund kid” as an entry point to examine one pathway into addiction: material security without emotional containment or purpose. It then places this alongside the experience of young people from low-income communities, where substance use may emerge from educational exclusion, family stress, violence, lack of opportunity and weak mental health infrastructure. The article argues for a trauma-informed but not trauma-reductionist approach. Addiction may be a response to trauma, but it is also shaped by biology, ADHD, depression, anxiety, peer culture, availability and the addictive properties of substances themselves.
    The article concludes that prevention and recovery require multi-layered responses: early assessment, family work, adolescent mental health services, humane de-addiction support, school counselling, community programmes, and stronger public health infrastructure.

    Keywords: youth addiction, trauma, aspiration, adolescent mental health, substance use, class inequality, urban India, belonging, rehabilitation

    1. Introduction
      Youth addiction is often discussed through blame. The wealthy child is called spoilt. The poor child is called delinquent. The adolescent using substances is seen as weak, immoral, rebellious or beyond control. These labels may satisfy social anxiety, but they do not help us understand addiction.
      Addiction among young people rarely has a single cause. It emerges where vulnerability meets availability. A young person may carry trauma, loneliness, anxiety, depression, ADHD, family conflict, shame, peer pressure or a deep absence of belonging. The substance then becomes more than a substance. It becomes relief, identity, escape, confidence, numbness or social entry.
      This article argues that youth addiction must be understood across class locations. In affluent contexts, substance use may emerge from purposelessness, performance pressure, entitlement, emotional neglect or excessive access. In low-income contexts, it may emerge from despair, violence, school exclusion, unemployment, family stress and lack of services. Both contexts are different, but both can weaken aspiration and belonging.
    2. The Trust Fund Kid: Wealth Without Necessity
      The term “trust fund kid” is not a clinical category. It is a social phrase used for young people whose financial futures are secured through inherited wealth, trusts or family assets. Wealth itself is not the problem. The problem begins when wealth removes necessity without creating responsibility, meaning or purpose.
      For many young people, aspiration is shaped by need. Education, work and achievement become meaningful because they are linked to dignity, autonomy and survival. But when survival is already guaranteed, effort may lose urgency. If this is combined with emotional distance, weak boundaries, family conflict or social pressure, a young person may experience life as comfortable but empty.
      Substance use can enter this emptiness. Drugs or alcohol may offer stimulation, rebellion, escape, peer belonging or emotional numbing. In such cases, addiction is not simply hedonism. It may be a response to a life that is materially full but emotionally thin.
    3. Addiction as Trauma Response — and More
      Addiction is often described as a trauma response. This is an important insight. Many people use substances to numb pain, regulate anxiety, manage shame, soften loneliness or escape memories of violence and neglect.
      However, addiction cannot be reduced to trauma alone. It is multifactorial. Biological vulnerability, family history, ADHD, depression, anxiety, impulsivity, peer culture, social pressure, substance availability and the pharmacology of the substance all matter. A young person may start using for social reasons but continue because the substance begins to regulate mood, sleep, confidence or emotional pain.
      The question, therefore, is not only “What trauma happened?” but also “What function is the substance serving?”
    4. Poverty, Despair and Substance Use
      Among young people from low-income communities, addiction may follow a different pathway. A child may grow up with poor schooling, unstable housing, family violence, migration stress, hunger, unemployment or neighbourhood exposure to substances. Mental health services may be absent. Recreation may be limited. The young person may be carrying adult responsibilities long before adulthood.
      Here, substance use may offer relief, status, belonging or escape. It may also become linked to petty crime, street survival, school dropout or conflict with law. The issue is not merely individual choice. It is a social ecology of risk.
    5. Aspiration and Collapse
      Aspiration is the capacity to imagine a future and believe that effort can move one toward it. Both privilege and deprivation can damage aspiration.
      In privilege, aspiration may weaken because nothing feels necessary. In deprivation, aspiration may weaken because nothing feels possible. One produces excess without purpose. The other producers struggle without hope. Both can lead to nihilism, risk-taking and addiction.
    6. Belonging and Shame
      Substance use is often a search for belonging. Adolescents are deeply shaped by peer acceptance. A young person who feels unseen at home or school may find identity in a group that drinks, smokes or uses drugs together. The group becomes a substitute family. Intoxication becomes both chemistry and community.
      This is why shame-based responses fail. When adults respond only with anger, punishment or ridicule, the young person hides more. Recovery requires accountability, but it also requires dignity.
    7. What Must Be Done
      A serious response to youth addiction must include:
      • Early screening for substance use, depression, ADHD, anxiety, trauma and self-harm.
      • Family counselling is safe and appropriate.
      • School-based mental health support.
      • Humane, evidence-based de-addiction services.
      • Community youth programmes that use sports, arts, mentoring, and livelihood exposure.
      • Post-treatment relapse prevention. Stronger public investment in adolescent mental health and addiction care.
    8. Conclusion
      Youth addiction is not only a problem of rich children with too much money or poor children with too little support. It is a problem of pain, emptiness, disconnection, availability and failed systems of care.
      Some young people use substances to numb trauma. Some use them to belong. Some use them because they have no purpose. Some use them because they have no hope. Many use them for all these reasons together.
      If we want prevention and recovery, we must move beyond labels. We must ask what young people are missing: safety, meaning, care, opportunity, structure, treatment or belonging. Addiction begins where these absences deepen. Recovery begins when they are rebuilt.

    About the author:
    Tathagat Dwij is a clinical psychologist with experience working with adolescents and young adults across diverse settings in Mumbai, including elite international schools, community-based organisations, vulnerable children, and youth in conflict with the law. He has worked with Salaam Baalak Trust and facilitated art-based therapeutic sessions under the mentorship of the therapeutic artist Sanjay Ojha. His interests include youth mental health, trauma, addiction, identity, and the relationship between social inequality and psychological distress.

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