Tag: Kahlil Gibran

  • The Prophet Dialogues- series #001

    The Prophet Dialogues
    Conversation One | The Coming of the Ship

    There were only three of us in our first Prophet Dialogue — Dr. Indu Prakash Singh, Deepali Bhattacharya and Tathagat Dwij.

    We began with The Coming of the Ship, the opening chapter of Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet. But very soon, we were moving in and out of Gibran — into Kabir and Tennyson, Kafka and Dostoevsky, psychology and philosophy, science and spirituality, and, inevitably, our own lives.
    Maybe that is how The Prophet is meant to be read.
    Not explained. Not analysed line by line. But allowed to take us somewhere.
    We return to books as different people
    There was something deeply personal about beginning these dialogues.
    Nearly thirty years ago, Indu ji introduced Deepali to The Prophet. She has returned to it many times since. Now, after all these years, the two were sitting together again with the same book open before them — this time with Tathagat bringing another generation and another way of seeing to the conversation.
    Indu ji said something that stayed with us. He may have introduced The Prophet to many people over the years, but Deepali had carried it forward and had now brought them back together around it.
    The book was the same.
    We were not.
    And that is probably why an old book can suddenly become new again.
    What do we leave behind when we leave?
    Almustafa has waited twelve years for the ship that will finally take him home. When he sees it, he is filled with joy.
    And sorrow.
    That contradiction drew us in.
    Indu ji stopped at Gibran’s image of Almustafa leaving “fragments of the spirit” in the streets of Orphalese.
    Can we ever really leave a place where we have lived deeply? Or a relationship? Or even a particular time in our lives?
    We move on, but some part of us remains.
    And some part of what we leave behind travels with us.
    Almustafa wants to go home. His sadness does not make that desire less real. It simply tells us that departure and attachment can exist together.
    Leaving does not mean we have stopped loving.
    What happens when it becomes quiet?
    Then came Gibran’s “seeker of silences.”
    Tathagat stopped there.
    He looked at silence through psychology. When the outside noise disappears — sounds, images, conversations, distractions — the mind begins to encounter itself. Thoughts start churning. Sometimes something emerges from that silence: an insight, an understanding, even an epiphany.
    But he added a caution.
    Just because a thought feels profound does not make it true.
    We can become intoxicated by our own thinking. We can build explanations about ourselves and the world and then start treating those explanations as reality.
    That is where the seeker has to be careful.
    The conversation moved naturally from here to Kafka’s Letter to His Father, Dostoevsky and existential thought — to the uncomfortable inner territories of fear, guilt, freedom, relationships, alienation and self-deception.
    And suddenly The Prophet did not feel like a “spiritual book” at all.
    It felt like a poetic way of entering some of the hardest emotional questions of being human.
    The lantern is mine. The flame is not.
    Indu ji kept returning to Almustafa’s humility.
    After all his years of contemplation, Almustafa still does not say: I possess wisdom.
    Instead, Gibran gives us the image of the lantern.
    The lantern may be mine. The flame is not.
    That changes the meaning of knowledge.
    We may carry it. We may give it a form. But can we really claim to be its source?
    Then came another image — the harp and the flute.
    And from Gibran, the conversation travelled to Kabir.
    Deepali remembered the imagery of Kabir’s Nirgun tradition, where the human body itself becomes a dwelling, a fort, containing within it different centres of life and consciousness — awake in some places, sleeping in others. The body is not simply a physical shell. It is through this body that we experience life and seek a connection with something beyond ourselves.
    That made Gibran’s flute feel strangely familiar.
    A flute has a body. It has openings. It has form.
    But there is no music until breath passes through it.
    So what are we?
    The music?
    The flute?
    The breath?
    We did not try to settle the question.
    That was the beauty of it.
    How can a drop be boundless?
    Then Indu ji stopped us at one extraordinary phrase:
    “A boundless drop to a boundless ocean.”
    The ocean being boundless is easy enough to imagine.
    But the drop?
    How can a drop be boundless?
    Indu ji brought in the idea of purna — the whole, the complete. If the drop comes from the whole, can it ever be entirely separate from it?
    Deepali responded from science.
    Think of a single cell in the human body.
    Compared with the whole body, it is almost unimaginably small. Yet a nucleated cell carries genetic information associated with the whole organism. It is only one cell; it is certainly not the entire human being. And yet something of the blueprint of the whole is held within that tiny unit.
    That offered another way of thinking about Gibran’s drop.
    A drop does not become the ocean merely because it came from it. And yet the nature of the ocean is present in that drop.
    Maybe our smallness and our connection to something larger are not contradictions after all.
    We are the drop.
    We are part of the ocean.
    And something of the ocean is within us.
    Science and spirituality were not being used to prove each other. They simply gave us two different languages with which to wonder about the same thing.
    And then Indu ji picked up an old schoolbook…
    One of the loveliest moments of the conversation came almost casually.
    Indu ji reached for an old Class IX book — a 1975 edition — and read Tennyson to us.
    There was something wonderful about it.
    A poem sitting inside a schoolbook for more than fifty years suddenly entered a conversation in 2026 about Gibran.
    And around the same table were Kabir, Tennyson, Kafka and Dostoevsky.
    Not because we had planned an impressive list of writers to discuss.
    One thought simply led to another.
    That is what good conversations do.
    “You have given us dreams to dream”
    This was one of the lines that held Deepali.
    What an extraordinary thing to say to another human being:
    You gave us dreams to dream.
    Sometimes a person enters our life and does not give us anything tangible.
    They simply make possibility visible again.
    Their energy, ideas, questions or way of looking at life awaken something that had become quiet inside us.
    Maybe this is what mentors do too.
    They do not hand us our dreams.
    They help us discover that we can still dream.
    “Disclose us to ourselves”
    Towards the end, we came to the line that stayed with all three of us in different ways.
    The people of Orphalese do not simply ask Almustafa to tell them what he knows.
    They ask him to “disclose us to ourselves.”
    Tathagat brought us back to psychology.
    To see ourselves requires honesty. Not the version of ourselves we present to other people, but the stories we tell ourselves when nobody else is listening.
    We can deceive other people.
    The more dangerous deception begins when we start deceiving ourselves.
    And suddenly this line connected with so much of what we had already discussed.
    The seeker of silence.
    The lantern and its flame.
    The flute and the breath.
    The drop and the ocean.
    Maybe the Prophet is not there to fill people with his wisdom.
    Maybe he is there to help them recognise something that is already within them.
    And that may also explain why three people could sit with the same chapter and find three different doors opening.
    One came through philosophy and spirituality.
    One through lived experience, Kabir and science.
    One through psychology and existential thought.
    None cancelled the other.
    They made the room larger.
    That, more than anything, was our first Prophet Dialogue.
    We began with one chapter.
    We ended up talking about leaving and belonging, silence and thought, knowledge and humility, the body and the divine, the individual and the infinite, teachers, dreams and the difficult business of knowing ourselves.
    There were no conclusions as we have just arrived at the port waiting to jump in.
    In fact, there is no need to conclude too for our conversation has begun.

    The Prophet Dialogues
    Three readers. Different ways of seeing. One conversation that continues.



  • The Prophet Dialogues- Conversation 3

    Dialogue III — Two Shores, One Sea

    “Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”

    GyaniNani and TD

    TD: Nani, before we begin — I read the replies to last week’s question.

    GyaniNani: So did I. Twice.

    TD: Some comments are quite thought-provoking.

    GyaniNani: That is why we are doing this in the open and not in a book. A book would only have had the two of us in it.

    TD: Then let me start where everyone starts.

    “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.”

    It is on wedding cards. It is on wall hangings. I have heard it read aloud at three weddings.

    GyaniNani: And?

    TD: And this time a different sentence stopped me.

    “Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”

    Why a sea, Nani? He could have said a bridge. A bridge connects. A bridge is what we would have chosen.

    GyaniNani: That is a good question. Let me ask you one back.

    What happens if two shores become one?

    TD: (hmmm)

    The sea disappears.

    GyaniNani: Yes.

    TD: Wait.

    Then separation is not the opposite of love. Separation is what allows love to exist at all.

    GyaniNani: Not separation. Be careful with the word.

    Individuality.

    The sea does not divide the shores. It is the only reason they are in relationship. It touches both of them at once, all the time, and it asks neither of them to disappear.

    TD: So love is not the bridge.

    Love is the sea itself.

    GyaniNani: Say more.

    TD: A bridge is built. It is fixed. It has a beginning and an end, and once it is built nothing about it moves.

    A sea is alive. It has weather. It has tides. It is boundless.

    And the source and the destination remain separate — and are connected anyway. Forever.

    GyaniNani: I wrote almost exactly that in the margin, years ago. The sea is boundless, huge, endless — the source and destination remain separate — beautiful.

    TD: I would not have got there without the question you asked me.

    GyaniNani: And I would not have said it as well as you just did. We are even.

    TD: There is more in that margin, though. On the facing page you wrote two things.

    Don’t control and confine your love — let it breathe.

    And below the oak and the cypress: not to overpower.

    GyaniNani: Those two notes are twenty years apart. I can tell from the pencil.

    TD: What changed between them?

    GyaniNani: The first one is about what you do to love. The second is about what you do to a person.

    Confining love makes it stale. Overpowering a person makes them smaller. They are not the same failure, though they usually travel together.

    TD: In my work we have language for the second one. Enmeshment. Differentiation. Whether two people can stay connected without one of them dissolving.

    GyaniNani: And Gibran says: the pillars of the temple stand apart.

    TD: The oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

    GyaniNani: Which is the more useful sentence to say to a couple at the end of a long argument?

    TD: (hahahah) Honestly? The trees.

    GyaniNani: I thought so.

    TD: But not because the clinical word is worse. Because the trees do not sound like a diagnosis. Nobody has to be the sick one for the trees to be true.

    GyaniNani: That is exactly it. That is what poetry can still do that our vocabulary cannot.

    TD: There is one image in the chapter I keep going back to.

    “Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.”

    Two strings. Never touching.

    And the music only exists because they do not touch.

    GyaniNani: Nobody quotes that line. It may be the best one in the chapter.

    (Aha!)

    TD: Nani. Can we go to the children now?

    GyaniNani: Go.

    TD: When I first read “Your children are not your children”, I thought Gibran was asking parents to be detached. It sounded cold to me. Almost cruel to the woman holding a baby who had just asked him a question.

    I do not think that any more.

    GyaniNani: What changed?

    TD: I noticed what he does not say.

    He never says do not love them.

    He says do not own them.

    GyaniNani: (quietly) Say that again.

    TD: He never says do not love them. He says do not own them.

    GyaniNani: That is the whole chapter, and I have never heard it put that plainly.

    I wrote something under that passage in my own copy. In pencil.

    Children are not our extensions. They are not our expectations.

    TD: The second half of that is the harder one.

    Because parents in India do not usually possess their children physically. Not any more. The children leave. They move cities, they move countries.

    GyaniNani: And they are still owned.

    TD: Through expectation. It travels by phone. It survives distance perfectly.

    GyaniNani: It is the quietest form of possession there is, and it does not feel like possession to the person doing it. It feels like love. It feels like ambition on someone’s behalf.

    TD: What I see most often is a parent who never asks, Who is this child?

    They ask, Why is this child not becoming the person I imagined?

    GyaniNani: And the child hears that question even when it is never spoken.

    Which is why Gibran says: they come through you, but not from you.

    TD: There is a line just before the Archer that unsettles me more than the famous one.

    “You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.”

    Not even in your dreams. He closes that door completely.

    GyaniNani: And then he says the thing that people skip past.

    “For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.”

    TD: Which is a sentence about grief, really.

    GyaniNani: It is. Every parent is grieving a child who no longer exists — the four-year-old, the one who needed you at midnight. That child is genuinely gone. And we are not allowed to say so, because the person standing in front of us is alive and well and asking us not to fuss.

    TD: I do not think I understood that until just now.

    GyaniNani: You will understand it properly in about twenty years. That is not a dismissal. It is the same thing we said last week about love.

    TD: Then let me end with the part nobody talks about.

    Everyone quotes “your children are not your children.”

    Hardly anyone talks about the Archer.

    GyaniNani: What did you see there?

    TD: That the Archer loves the arrow.

    But He also loves the bow.

    “For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.”

    GyaniNani: And why did that stay with you?

    TD: Because I sit with parents who are exhausted from trying to be good archers. They think the whole weight of the child’s flight is on them. Every choice, every school, every mistake.

    And the passage tells them they are not the archer at all.

    They are the bow.

    They are being held.

    GyaniNani: (after a long pause)

    We spend all our attention on where the arrow lands.

    And we forget who is holding the bow.

    TD: The bending is not something the parent chooses to do. It is something done to the parent. And Gibran asks only that it be borne with gladness.

    GyaniNani: Then parenting is an act of trust as much as an act of responsibility.

    Perhaps more.

    TD: We began with a sea that keeps two shores from becoming one.

    And we are ending with a bow that is bent by someone else’s hand.

    GyaniNani: Both of them are the same instruction, said twice.

    Hold. Do not grip.

    Reflection

    Two shores that become one shore have lost the sea between them.

    The strings of a lute make music because they never touch.

    A child can be released from a house and still be held by an expectation.

    We do not usually own our children. We own the version of them we imagined.

    And the parent who is trying hardest to be a good archer has not yet noticed that they are the bow.

    The question I am leaving with you:

    What have you been imagining on someone else’s behalf?

    A child, a partner, a parent, a student. Name the expectation — not the person. One sentence.

    And if you are the arrow rather than the bow this time: what were you expected to become?

    📖 From my copy

    A photograph of page 13 — and in the margin, in pencil:

    “Children are not our extensions. They are not our expectations.”

    Until next Friday…

    Dialogue IV — On Giving Gibran turns next to what we give and why. He has an uncomfortable question waiting: whether the giver is more blessed than the gift — and whether any of us gives without asking for something back.

  • The Prophet Dialogues- Conversation 2

    Dialogue II — When Love Finds You

    A note on how this section is split. Gibran gives us three chapters here — Love, Marriage, Children — and they belong to one arc: love arrives, love asks for space, love releases. Two conversations carry it better than one. Dialogue II stays with love itself. Dialogue III takes the sea and the arrow together, because marriage and parenting are the same lesson learned twice.

    A note on TD.

    TD is a young psychologist. He has the vocabulary — attachment, vulnerability, individuation, regulation. That vocabulary is a gift and a hazard, and the dialogues should use both. He is not GyaniNani’s student. He is her companion, and roughly half the wisdom in these two conversations is his.

    Love possesses not nor would it be possessed.”

    GyaniNani and TD

    TD: Nani, I want to confess something before we start.

    GyaniNani: Confess.

    TD: I have read this chapter many times. I can quote parts of it. And I am not sure I understand it.

    When Gibran says love threshes you, sifts you, grinds you to whiteness — I understand every word. I do not understand the experience.

    GyaniNani: Then you have understood the chapter better than most people who quote it.

    TD: That is a kind way to let me off.

    GyaniNani: It is not kindness. Some things cannot be understood by reading. They have to be lived.

    TD: That is what struck me. When he writes about being wounded by love, about standing naked before it — he is describing something that happens in the body.

    The chest tightens. The stomach drops. The hands do not stay still.

    You feel somehow smaller.

    No dictionary explains that.

    GyaniNani: Language can describe an experience. Only life decodes it.

    Perhaps that is why people return to this book at different ages. The words do not change.

    The reader changes.

    TD: There is a name for what I just described, you know. In my training we call it interoception — the sense we have of our own insides. The body registers meaning before the mind can put it into a sentence.

    GyaniNani: And does the name help?

    TD: Usually, yes.

    GyaniNani: I ask because I have watched people receive a name for what they were feeling and go quiet in a way that worried me. As though the naming had settled it. As though a word had been placed over the thing like a lid.

    TD: That happens. I have done it myself.

    But I want to argue with you a little.

    GyaniNani: Please.

    TD: Some people come to me with no words at all. Only a body that will not sleep and a chest that will not loosen. For them a name is not a lid. It is the first handhold. It is the moment they stop believing they are broken and start believing they are describing something real.

    GyaniNani: (hmmm)

    I had not thought of it that way.

    I have spent thirty years worrying that we explain feelings too quickly. I have not spent enough time with the person who cannot name a single one.

    TD: I think both are true, Nani. A name given too early closes a door. A name given at the right time opens one.

    GyaniNani: Then perhaps the question is never whether to name it, but whether we are still curious after we have.

    A question, halfway through.

    Where in your body does love live? Not what it means to you. Where you feel it. One line.

    TD: Can I tell you what this made me think about?

    Parents.

    Parents keep saying, “One day you will understand.”

    As children we dismiss it. It sounds like another lecture in a long line of lectures.

    Then one day you fall in love.

    And those same words arrive with all their weight.

    GyaniNani: (smiles) Many parents are quietly waiting for that day.

    Not because they want their children to suffer.

    Because love makes us softer, and they are waiting for the softness.

    TD: Softer how?

    GyaniNani: Have you noticed it in your friends? Someone who argued with every suggestion suddenly understands what it is to worry for another person.

    To wait for a message.

    To lose sleep.

    To forgive without keeping the account open.

    To put someone else’s happiness beside their own and not resent it.

    That is usually when children begin to hear the language their parents had been speaking all along.

    TD: So a child understands a parent’s love only after loving someone themselves. Until then it is a beautiful sentence in a language they have not learned.

    GyaniNani: Yes. And you have just said in two sentences what I have been trying to say to parents for years.

    TD: Which raises something else I keep circling.

    Gibran wrote this in 1923. No attachment theory. No emotional regulation. None of the vocabulary I use every day.

    And he is describing all of it.

    GyaniNani: Be careful how you put that.

    TD: How so?

    GyaniNani: I nearly wrote once that psychology was “not yet evolved” in his time. It was the wrong sentence. There were serious people doing serious work in those years, and it diminishes them.

    What is truer is that psychology had not yet become part of ordinary speech. Today we say attachment, vulnerability, individuation over breakfast. Gibran had no such shelf to reach for. He had images.

    TD: So science gave us the concepts.

    GyaniNani: And poetry gave us the pictures. Neither replaces the other. Science measures. Poetry usually notices first.

    TD: Then let me ask the thing that has bothered me most about this chapter.

    Why is every single image of love in it painful?

    Pruning. Threshing. Sifting. Grinding. Kneading. Fire.

    That is a description of what happens to wheat, Nani. It is violent.

    GyaniNani: Because transformation is rarely comfortable.

    Notice that he does not stop at the fire. The wheat becomes bread. But nothing in that sequence lets the grain stay a grain.

    TD: In my field we would call the whole passage a description of vulnerability.

    GyaniNani: And Gibran simply called it love.

    (silence)

    TD: There is a line I underlined and then could not stop returning to.

    “Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.”

    Growth and pruning in one breath. Same hand.

    GyaniNani: That is the sentence that holds the chapter together, and almost nobody quotes it.

    We have made a culture that wants the growth without the pruning. We want to be expanded and never cut back.

    TD: And Gibran gives you the choice.

    GyaniNani: He does. And this is the part that frightens me.

    He says: if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, then cover yourself and leave love’s threshing-floor —

    “Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.”

    TD: A seasonless world.

    GyaniNani: A safe one. Nothing dies in it because nothing grows in it.

    I wrote one thing in my margin here, in pencil, years ago.

    Fear is the enemy of love.

    TD: That is what he is saying, isn’t it. Not hatred. Not indifference.

    Fear.

    GyaniNani: Fear is what makes us reach for the safe version. And the safe version is not a smaller love. It is a different world altogether — one where you never laugh with your whole laughter again.

    TD: Nani, I have to push back on something else you wrote.

    GyaniNani: Good.

    TD: Somewhere in your notes you wrote, Love is stillness.

    I disagreed immediately. This entire chapter is motion. The sword among the pinions. The north wind laying waste to the garden. The threshing-floor. Nothing about it is still.

    GyaniNani: You are right about the chapter.

    TD: Then why stillness?

    GyaniNani: Because I was not describing what love does. I was describing what love is.

    Think about what actually makes love noisy.

    Fear makes it agitated. Possession makes it anxious. Ego makes it loud. Comparison makes it restless.

    Take those four out.

    TD: (after a moment)

    And what is left is quiet.

    GyaniNani: Love itself has never been the noise. The noise is everything we attach to it.

    TD: So the threshing is real, but it is love acting on us. The stillness is love as it is in itself.

    GyaniNani: That is better than how I put it. Use yours.

    TD: Then perhaps love is not asking us to become better people.

    It is asking us to become available.

    GyaniNani: Available to be changed.

    TD: Yes.

    GyaniNani: (after a long pause)

    Which may be why he ends where he does.

    “Love possesses not nor would it be possessed. For love is sufficient unto love.”

    The moment we try to own it, we stop letting it change us.

    And a love that cannot change us has become a possession.

    TD: We began with me admitting I did not understand this chapter.

    GyaniNani: And we are ending with me admitting the same. I have read it for thirty years. It still gets ahead of me.

    Reflection

    Some things language can point to but never hand over.

    Love does not arrive as information. It arrives as weather — in the chest, in the stomach, in the hands.

    Every image Gibran uses for it is an image of something being broken open in order to become food.

    The alternative he offers is not a lesser love. It is a seasonless world.

    And the enemy is not hatred. It is fear.

    The question I am leaving with you:

    Where are you living in the seasonless world?

    One place in your life where you have chosen the safe version of love — over the one that would have cost you something. One sentence. No explanation needed.

    Last week I asked what you were calling a garment that was actually a skin.

    📖 From my copy

    A photograph of page 10 — the underlining, and in the margin, in pencil:

    “Fear is the enemy of love.”

    Until next Friday…

    Dialogue III — Two Shores, One Sea Everyone quotes one line from the chapter on marriage. I want to talk about a different one. And then, at last, about children.

  • Why The Prophet?

    11 Conversations on parenting, love and letting go

    Inspired by The Prophet by Kahlil Jibran

    A personal Journey

    From a carefree, naive wanderer

    To a lifelong seeker of questions.

    Not because life became easier, but one small book quietly changed the way I looked at the world.

    Walk with us..

    The first conversation begins this friday…

    Welcome to The Prophet Dialogues